Thursday, April 26, 2012

Better I promise

I need to get better about blogging. There are so many things I think about or read about that I know I want to blog about but I just have not been making the time. So boo to me. I'm going to get better at it starting now. I started drafting this on Monday and finally posting today.

The weekend was good. We had dinner at a friend's house on Friday night and then one of my best friends came into town Saturday and Sunday. There was a group of us for a nice dinner and drinks then Sunday another friend of ours had a brunch for everyone too with their kids. It was fun. It's nice to see all the new babies and how big the others are getting. And it was especially nice to get in quality friend time. With everyone living in different places and having kids in all different stages or none at all, it's nice when we can find time to get together and catch up.

Unfortunately last week I had a long discussion with two different friends regarding infertility. One of my friends will be 40 in June and has been trying for over two years. She just had fibroid surgery and now is trying naturally but the doctors are suggesting due to her age her best bet is IVF. Which we all know is expensive. They do not have coverage so it would all be out of pocket so I think it is just a matter of when they can get the money together and move forward. It just breaks my heart for anyone 1) who even has to go through any infertility protocol especially IVF and 2) just may not have the means to do it. UGH!!

I had another friend who is in the beginning stages. Been trying for 6 months and in her low 30s and her doctor is pretty proactive. She was going to go on clomid but they suggested having her husband tested first before they decide on their next move. My discussion with her was basically about just being an advocate for herself through this and staying proactive. If there is an issue, the sooner she can nail it down the better. And better to know there are no issues at all so she doesn't need to worry.

On the pregnancy front, I am 11 weeks and feeling good. I had a lot of cramping last week but I am sure it is still growing pains. After a few nights this weekend of staying p past my normal preggo bedtime, I slept for a very long time last night. I really am thankful for how easy my first trimester has been. I wish we could see the lil Gobbler this week, but my next appointment isn't until Monday. I just feel better knowing everything is going ok in there. I feel my stomach getting harder and am starting to pop a small bit but can still wear my clothes but I do not think for much longer. At least my jeans. I'll have to start wearing the bella band all the time or invest in some of those demi panel jeans. I'll be glad once summer is hear. Dresses will be easier to deal with then jeans all the time.

It was our anniversary on Wednesday! Two years! Even with IF being a PITA, they really have been happy years and I am looking forward to many more. We went to dinner at the best new restaurant and it was delicious. And I really have not missed drinking. I think people need to ask me again in about 3 or 4 more months.

So for fun, J and I were doing old wives tales tests to see what the gender of the baby is. Everything is pointing to girl - ring on a string, Chinese birth chart. I have always thought girl anyway. We are not finding out and I could care what that baby is as long as it is healthy. I had a friend who with her first cried when she found out it was a boy because she wanted a girl so bad. Not this girl, just thankful for this baby no matter what the gender.


  1. Al and I were so lucky to have a wonderful clinic whom had a study going on when we started. We were able to get about 12,000 in iuis for free. When it came to ivf we stressed for months upon months. Getting that large of a payment together is not easy. We tried for a personal loan but didnt have enough on our house to get the whole amount. Thankfully we were able to take a loan from our 401K with super low interest to pay for it. After this next ivf we are tapped out though. I think if you cant afford ivf (which most of us truly cant) maybe try medicated iuis. I know the chances arent that high but it is something. Hopefully the U.S. will start having more states mandated for infertility coverage in the near future.

    Congrats on great pregnancy so far. You are doing fantastic!!

  2. I love reading your blog! Makes me smile, so glad your enjoying your first trimester!

  3. Yay we are 11 weeks! I'm having the same stretching/twinges/minor pains that just have to be a sign of growing. Glad to hear your symptoms aren't bad!

  4. Happy Anniversary!Your friends are so lucky to have a friend like you who they can talk to. Someone who knows what it's like.

  5. so glad things are going so well....hope you have a fabulous weekend and a happy anniversary in case I don't get back on here before then!

  6. Happy anniversary :)) And YAY that T1 is almost over... will be interesting to see if your girl predictions are right :) Thinking of you and bub xo

  7. It's so hard to hear about people having to go through so much time and money just to have a baby. I am sorry for your friends. I hope everything works out for them.
    I had A LOT of cramps near the end of my first trimester too. You have to drink a lot of water, it REALLY helps. I am glad everything is going smoothly, and I wonder if the old wives tales are right?! My placenta is on the left, and the heartrate was always in the 160s, my first trimester was easy, and baby stole my beauty. ALL of these meant girl, and wouldn't ya know it? I'm having a girl lol! I swore I was having a boy though.
    Happy Happy anniversary! :)